May 20 – Before he became a noted Hollywood psychologist, Carder Stout, PhD, lived a privileged life that gradually descended from elite Manhattan private schools into crack addiction and running drugs for an LA gang. Here, he tells Purist about the journey, and offers a peek at his searing memoir of addiction, redemption and hope in unlikely places. Continue on The Purist Online ›
May 5 – Addiction memoirs are a particular genre. They present unequal parts of noir autobiography, gothic fiction, sci-fi and dystopian horror, along with bits of black humor. They are books about recovery, which can only be written by those who have jumped off the train headed for oblivion. Their stories of survival plunge readers into realms of degradation that kill all but the lucky and the brave.
A few such memoirs, like David Carr’s “The Night of the Gun” and Mary Karr’s “Lit,” ascend as literary revelations. But, whatever the prose, each addiction memoir validates hope and proves that demons can be conquered. The victory usually comes at the cost of steel bracelets, nights behind bars, sleeping in alleys, suicide attempts, several stints in rehab and then a solid 12-step program, all of which Carder Stout illustrates in “Lost in Ghost Town: A Memoir of Addiction, Redemption, and Hope in Unlikely Places.” Continue on The Georgetowner ›
April 24 – Fear is protective. It’s our mind’s way of understanding a threat, processing exactly how threatening it is, and coordinating some kind of response. But we tend to have it in excess and hold onto it for too long, as if a moment or two of letting our guard down might give the boogeyman the opportunity it needs to get us. That’s what makes fear and anxiety so draining and often debilitating: We can’t—or maybe won’t—let it go.
Therapist Carder Stout, PhD, knows that we’re currently in a near-constant state of high alert: social distancing, disinfecting, shooting distrustful glances at anyone who steps inside our six-foot radius. While it’s important to carefully follow health protocols to slow the spread of the virus, he says, that doesn’t mean we have to live like the boogeyman is at our door. We can release fear and reside in the present moment, where, despite the virus, some things are still good. Continue on Goop.com ›
On today’s episode of The Addicted Mind Podcast, Duane speaks with author Carder Stout about his book, Lost in Ghost Town, the story of his addiction and recovery. Duane also addresses the difficulty of the ongoing COVID-19 situation by starting a campaign of stories trying to spread hope in a time of darkness.
Psychologist and author of “Lost in Ghost Town”, Dr. Carder Stout, discusses how social distancing impacts those with addiction.
In his new book “Lost in Ghost Town: A Memoir of Addiction, Redemption, and Hope in Unlikely Places,” psychologist to the Hollywood elite Dr. Carder Stout delivers a page-turning memoir about his fall from grace into the gritty underbelly of crack addiction, running drugs for the Shoreline Crips, surviving homelessness, escaping a murder plot, and finding redemption in the most unlikely of places. Join us for a conversation Dr. Stout about his wild, hard and fascinating life in edition of Leonard Lopate at Large on WBAI.
Addition trumps privilege in Carder Stout’s vivid memoir “Lost in Ghost Town: A Memoir of Addition, Redemption, and Hope in Unlikely Places.” Written with excruciating truth and visceral fear, desperation and despair, Stout takes us into the incapacitating strangle-hold of additional and the battle to overcome it. Continue reading ›
Addiction trumps privilege in Carder Stout’s vivid memoir Lost in Ghost Town: A Memoir of Addiction, Redemption, and Hope in Unlikely Places (HCI). Written with excruciating truth and visceral fear, desperation and despair, Stout takes us into the incapacitating stranglehold of addiction and the battle to overcome it.
Son of an heiress, he’d lived in a four-story mansion in Georgetown, then a penthouse in Manhattan, “had climbed Himalayan peaks in Nepal, swum with sharks on the Great Barrier Reef, and watched The Stones play a free concert to the newly liberated citizens of Prague.” But that life was a fairytale and a distant memory when he later lived on the murderous streets of Ghost Town – the dangerous Oakwood neighborhood of Venice, CA — and became a driver for Flyn, known as the “underground mayor of drugtown,” a venerated former member of the Shoreline Crip gang. Continue on BookTrib.com ›
Psychologists to the Hollywood elite Dr. Carder Stout is here to discuss his page-turning memoir about his fall from grace into the guilty underbelly of crack addiction, running drugs for the Shoreline Crips, surviving homelessness, escaping a murder plot, and finding redemption in the most unlikely of places. To get more information you can follow him on Instagram @drcarderstout and Twitter @carderstout and on Facebook at Carder.Stout.
From the outside, Stout’s early life seemed perfect. Yet behind the privilege was unhappiness: Both of his parents drank excessively, and his father was more absent than present. As a preteen, the author experimented with alcohol and marijuana; before he was a teenager, he became bulimic. After his parents sent him to a prestigious boarding school in New Hampshire, Stout attached himself to a popular older student who introduced him to cocaine. Living in New York after college, reckless and without direction, the author exhausted his trust fund on a penthouse and spent most of his nights drinking and snorting cocaine with A-list actors and celebrities. “We were oversexed, libido-driven twenty-somethings without regular jobs to go to in the morning,” he writes. “We drank and laughed and carried on like we were invincible.” A few years later, Stout moved to Los Angeles, where he began his slide into crack addiction. By 2003, he was living in a part of Venice called “Ghost Town,” named for the addict “ghosts” who haunted the streets. Without a job and almost homeless, he became a driver for a Shoreline Crips drug lord named Flyn who offered Stout the brotherly comfort and support he lacked. The author’s situation became even more dire after he became a drug runner for another Crip named Trech. Seeking a way out of the drug life but not sure how to proceed, Stout helped a woman he loved—who also happened to be Trech’s favorite prostitute—escape back home to Detroit. After Trech hunted him down and almost killed him, Stout finally left Los Angeles and returned to the East Coast, where he began the long road to recovery. Raw and engaging, this is both a cautionary tale about the hidden costs of privilege and a testament to one man’s eventual willingness to change to save himself. A harrowing memoir of addiction and recovery. Continue on KirkusReview.com ›
There is no easy way to write about drug addiction, just as there is no easy way to read about it. Lost in Ghost Town, author Carder Stout’s new memoir, somehow grabs the problem of addiction head-on while shattering common stereotypes behind it: by writing about a privileged kid, the book shows how drug addiction has no bounds when it comes to socio-economic status.
Stout is now a psychologist with a private clinic in West Los Angeles, where his clientele includes Oscar, Emmy, Tony, and Grammy winners. Prior to his career as a psychologist, he worked in the entertainment industry where he produced award-winning independent films. But, along the way, he writes, he found himself running drugs for the Shoreline Crips and escaping a murder plot. Stout tells his story in an upsettingly beautiful way, recounting his memories and tracing the lines to what lead him to become addicted to drugs. Continue on RollingStone.com ›
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In our collective mythologies, the tale of a hero usually involves fighting monsters and claiming divine prizes. But swords and stones aside, these stories are about overcoming obstacles in pursuit of greater purpose. It’s a universal human journey, says depth psychologist Carder Stout, PhD, and one that is ultimately internal. Each of us has a calling, according to Stout, and that pull, that sense of longing or inkling of purpose—is just the prologue. Continue on Goop.com ›
Dr. Carder Stout is a Los Angeles area psychotherapist with specialties in addiction and dream analysis. He joined us on Good Day LA with interpretations to common dream scenarios.
Like so many of us, Rose Armitage, a 20-year-old from Las Vegas, is a crier during arguments.
It doesn’t matter how well-reasoned her points are or how much of the moral high ground she has, when she and her boyfriend start arguing, the waterworks begin.
“I can’t remember an argument in which I haven’t cried, but then I’m generally a crier,” she told HuffPost. “I cried this morning about a hard math equation. For me, I find that in a fight with my partner, I cry because I care. And sometimes because I don’t feel heard.”
Charles Darwin once declared emotional tears “purposeless,” but as Armitage’s example shows, tears aren’t just cathartic, they serve a purpose, communicating when our words fail. We might cry out of empathy for our partner, shock at hearing about something we’d been oblivious to or anger if another’s argument comes across as accusatory.
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Sobriety is more than the initial period of detox; cravings, whether for a substance or a behavior, stick around. That’s why it takes time to develop a skill set to combat them, says Carder Stout, PhD, a Los Angeles depth psychologist who had addictions of his own. Stout has written for goop about addiction before (see “Why We’re All Addicts” and “Calling It Quits”), but this time, he speaks from a deeply personal perspective, mapping his experience with addiction and sobriety from his rock bottom to rehab to what, in the end, really worked. Continue on Goop.com ›
Is variety in a relationship the spice of life, or a groove-killer? LA-based therapist Carder Stout, PhD, weighs the pros and cons of the polyamorous movement.
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If there’s a magic age to have kids, no one has found it yet. But psychotherapist Carder Stout’s account of approaching fifty with a pair of toddlers—and why he’s the better for it—makes a compelling read. Stout, who spent his thirties being single, getting sober, and developing a career as a therapist (see his insights on depth psychology), had once assumed he’d be married by twenty-five and a dad by thirty. He was wrong and, as it turns out, right in other ways. Continue on Goop.com ›
Depth psychologist Carder Stout says that we all have something to learn from knowing our attachment style: The first step is knowing if you have an insecure attachment style, and, if so, what kind. The second—and this is the tough part—is changing it. Stepping into the unconscious mind isn’t intuitive or easy, but, according to Stout, it’s not impossible—and it can reform the way you approach relationships going forward. Continue on Goop.com ›
Psychologist and Mindsail expert Carder Stout, PhD, says the best breathing technique during these attacks is to “take medium, regulated breaths, inhaling through your nose and exhaling with your mouth” since both deep and shallow breaths pose their own issues. Deep breaths have been thought to exacerbate the problem by elongating the hyperventilation that commonly occurs during an attack. Alternatively, Dr. Stout says breathing too shallowly “can cause a feeling of suffocation and increase the levels of terror.” In addition to taking medium measured breaths, he says it can be helpful to imagine “that you are breathing in love and blowing out negative energy.” Continue on wellandgood.com ›
No relationship is perfect—and even our very closest, best-of-best-friends-forever bonds can deeply disappoint us, or, worse, break apart. Whether it’s a case of someone saying the wrong thing, falling through on an important commitment, or simply fading away, we can’t always control what goes wrong in our friendships. But we can determine how the breakup—or make-up—affects us emotionally, says LA-based depth psychologist Dr. Carder Stout who specializes in relationships (and frequently contributes to goop—see here). Here Stout talks about why it’s especially painful to break things off with your former ride-or-die—and how building resilience and shifting your perspective can potentially save a friendship. Continue on Goop.com ›
The stakes in sibling relationships are high. Whether or not you and your brother/sister are besties, the dynamics of a sibling relationship come with inherent complexities that don’t exist in our other friendships. Trusted goop depth psychologist Carder Stout, Ph.D., who focuses on exploring the unconscious side of the psyche, has incredible insight into navigating the tricky sibling waters—from how to balance our sense of loyalty to our siblings with our own needs and wants, what to do if we feel overshadowed by a sibling (or if we worry we are the one overshadowing), to the deal with lending money to siblings, how to act if we really don’t like a sibling’s significant other, and the best way to reconnect if you’ve lost touch. Continue on Goop.com ›
May: Dr. Stout being interviewed for the show Dr. Feelgood
Dr. Stout being interviewed for the show Dr. Feelgood, a documentary series on addiction that will air on the Reelz Network in December.
Every so often, when a celebrity enters rehab for something not normally regarded as addictive, the media gets into an argument over definitions: can behaviors that don’t involve altered states of consciousness truly be described as addictions? Or are we simply using public awareness of drug and alcohol dependence to condemn certain behaviors — or garner sympathy?
Bustle talked to addiction expert Dr. Carder Stout about the realities of shopping addiction and how it works. Continue on Bustle.com ›
As you recount a strange dream to a friend, it doesn’t take long to realize how illogical and silly it can sound. The surroundings change without warning, the plot twists faster than a soap opera, and even the people in the dream seamlessly transform into a different characters in bizarre ways. With all this nonsense, you have to wonder—is there true meaning to your dreams? What’s the best way to interpret your dreams? Can certain dream symbols shed light on what’s happening IRL? Continue on HealthiNation.com ›
No scientist has a definitive answer as to why we dream. Theories suggest it might be a by-product of nighttime neuronal activity or a mechanism for processing emotions and memories. Whatever the case, dreams are a constant source of fascination for humans. Dr. Carder Stout, a Los Angeles based Depth Psychologist and Dream Analyst, answers your questions about the mystical, unnerving and frequently ambiguous qualities of dreams… Continue on TheCultureTrip.com ›
Whether it’s cutting out sugar, negative thinking, or your cell phone, we come to our resolutions (New Year’s or otherwise) full of hope, firm deadlines, and willpower. But the idea of quitting something—be it a behavior or a substance—often dooms potential behavior changes from the start, says LA-based Dr. Carder Stout; a brilliant depth psychologist, he focuses on exploring the unconscious side of the psyche, where we store negative beliefs and self-destructive tendencies, in order to heal. Continue on Goop.com ›
Kind of like the saying, “Any press is good press,” the same sort of holds true with dreams, believe it or not.
So basically, even if a dream technically isn’t good, it’s better to dream a dream of any kind than not dream (or remember a dream) at all. Continue on SweetyHigh.com ›
by Dr. Carder Stout
We were reminded of how powerful—and strangely beautiful—the act of grieving can be when we saw artist Taryn Simon’s piece, “An Occupation of Loss,” which was performed by professional mourners from around the world. Of course, no such role exists in our culture, and grief remains one of the darkest, most difficult emotions to take in. Brilliant, LA-based depth psychologist and therapist, Dr. Carder Stout, says that nothing had prepared him to process the overwhelming grief he felt when he lost his mother. Continue on Goop.com ›
As an adult, the occasional nightmare is totally normal; we all have dreams that give us the chills every once in a while. But if you consistently find yourself jolting awake, movie-style, from dreams about puppies biting your face off and desperately avoiding one-eyed serial killers, it could be a sign of nightmare disorder — a sleep disorder that’s exactly as much fun as it sounds.
For whatever reason, nightmares tend to be far more common in children than adults; by the time adulthood is reached, most people are able to sleep through the night without fear of, well, fear.
This isn’t to say that adults don’t get nightmares, but most bad dreams can be traced to outside causes: Stress, traumatic events, other psychological disorders, and so on. Continue on Bustle.com ›
by Dr. Carder Stout
It is one of the tenets of being human that we are all inclined to “be” a certain way—and then cling to that identity. But where do those original definitions come from? Carder Stout, a Jungian psychotherapist who practices in Los Angeles, explains their primordial origins—and what we can all do to ensure that they’re serving, rather than hindering us. Continue on Goop.com ›
“Dreams are a really valuable resource for us to really understand ourselves better, to understand what’s going on in our lives in a different way,” says Dr. Carder Stout, a Los Angeles–based psychologist. Dreams, he explains, can… Continue on Byrdie.com ›
by Dr. Carder Stout
Synchronicity is a term that is frequently used to represent the process of experiences coming together and forming some sort of meaning. Synchronicity was one of psychologist Carl Jung’s most complex and misunderstood concepts, partially because it is an experience that forces people to question their notions of what is rational and scientific. Jung’s concept of a synchronistic world was a complex intertwining of linear causality forming a balance with the unseen energies of the universe. In this conception, a playful relationship exists between what is seen and unseen. Jung hypothesized that synchronistic events were manifestations of a specific desire deriving from the humanistic need to heal and grow. He also believed they were elements of a universal, archetypal pattern. I believe that there is truth to this theory as human beings have a natural tendency to transform physically and psychologically from their first breath to their last. Continue on Huffington Post ›
by Dr. Carder Stout
You are here in this world for a purpose. Even if that purpose isn’t entirely clear to you, it’s very likely that you have goals and dreams that you’re reaching for—a list of things you want to experience, to achieve, to offer and to share. But perhaps you, at times, find yourself making choices and engaging in behavior patterns that leave you disempowered and doubting yourself rather than ready to set the world on fire. I don’t know anyone who hasn’t felt this way. As human beings, we are a delicate balance of strengths and weaknesses, of light and dark aspects. However, one of the biggest impediments to the growth and achievement we want, individually and collectively, is seeing these polarities as the enemies of each other.
What if you knew that the way to access the very best in yourself—the light side of your humanity—was by facing your darkness? What if you knew that your greatest power could be found in the hands of the parts of yourself that you believed to be the most shameful, or powerless? Continue on Alanis.com ›
Nothing happens by accident when your soul gets involved. It is the most intentional presence in your life whether you recognize its existence or not. Your soul is omniscient and ever present. It informs your decision making through the thoughts and images it provides. It is the essence that fuels your intuition. When you are certain of something it is your soul’s voice that resounds from the depths of psyche. When a mysterious… Continue on Goop.com ›
UnREAL or unearthly? Actress Ashley Scott, who recently portrayed mentally disturbed mom Mary Newhouse on Lifetime’s UnREAL, welcomed her second child in real life less than two months ago.
To help with the stresses of her newly expanded family and her career, she turned to dream psychology with Dr. Carder Stout, who analyzes dreams and helps the dreamer to interpret the deeper implications. Continue on US Weekly ›
8/21: ‘We are all addicts’: Gwyneth Paltrow calls on therapist to explain unhealthy obsessions with everything from phones to exercise in latest Goop
She uses her weekly Goop to impart her words of wisdom and has recently covered everything from water having feelings to yoga for children.
This week, Gwyneth Paltrow called on one of her favourite therapists to discuss why he thinks we are all addicts.
Describing the post, which is titled Why We Are All Addicts, 42-year-old Gwyneth writes: ‘Dr. Carder Stout, a therapist in Los Angeles, explains how we’re all essentially addicts, manifesting this shared reality through everything from our relationships with our tech to an obsession with exercise.’ Continue on DailyMail.com ›
Why are we all addicts? That’s the question Gwyneth Paltrow asks in a new post on GOOP. “Dr. Carder Stout, a therapist in Los Angeles, explains how we’re all essentially addicts, manifesting this shared reality through everything from our relationships with our tech to an obsession with exercise,” she writes. “Yes, addiction is inside you no matter how far your soul has evolved. It resides in your psyche and binds you together with all other addicted beings in the world. We could not shake it if we tried.” Continue on MSN.com ›
by Dr. Carder Stout
While these are the people society has characterized as true addicts, we often overlook a simple fact—that we may be addicts ourselves. Much like other psychological issues, addiction manifests in varying degrees of severity. Some individuals may be overcome by its powerful current while others may experience it more subtly, like a plodding drip. You may be unaware of your addictive tendencies or simply brush them off as non-threatening character flaws. Continue on Goop.com ›
HuffPost Lifestyle spoke with Dr. Carder Stout, a Los Angeles-based Jungian psychotherapist to evaluate 10 common dream scenarios.
“Dreams are a window into that unconscious part of our psyche,” Stout told The Huffington Post. “You can extract a wealth of important information that is going to help you be a happier, healthier and more evolved person.” Continue on Huffington Post ›
by Dr. Carder Stout
Did you ever have a dream as a kid that sent you scurrying to your parent’s room? You were convinced that the dream was real, but your parents reassured you it was not. They may have said, “Don’t worry. It was only a dream. It wasn’t real.”
As you curled up between them and fell back asleep there was a whisper of safety tucked in next to you. The two people you trusted most had delivered a message that was designed to lull you back to sleep. And it did… Continue on Goop.com ›